Receiving feedback, especially from those we may not have the strongest affinity for, can be a delicate process. This is particularly true when the givers of feedback are colleagues, friends, or even family members. So, how can we handle it gracefully?
Let’s consider an instance from my own experience. Recently, I had to receive feedback from a colleague whom I found challenging to work with. As he pointed out certain areas for improvement, I immediately went on the defensive, emphasizing all the positive contributions I had made. In my frustration, I even raised my voice, dismissing his input as an exaggerated concern.
To avoid such confrontations, one effective strategy is to request written feedback. This approach can help manage emotional reactions that might arise when feedback is delivered orally. The asynchronous nature of written feedback allows for careful consideration over time, which can be beneficial in understanding the underlying message without being influenced by the giver’s immediate context. It provides a buffer that enables us to focus solely on the content of the feedback, rather than being clouded by interpersonal dynamics.
Ultimately, utilizing written feedback not only assists in the processing of the information but also ensures a fair and objective evaluation, contributing to a constructive and professional environment where all perspectives are given due consideration.